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February 10, 2025

The Framing Effect

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The Negotiation Illusion: It’s Not About Being Right

The biggest mistake in negotiation? Thinking the best argument wins.

It doesn’t. The best framing wins.

Most people walk into a negotiation thinking it's about logic, fairness, or persuasion—whatever they believe is the “right” way to make their case. They assume that if they present enough facts, tug on the right emotions, or argue from a moral high ground, they’ll win.

But negotiations don’t work that way. It’s not about who has the best argument—it’s about which type of argument dominates the conversation.

Every negotiation is an invisible game of rock, paper, scissors, where each strategy—logic, emotion, and morality—can either overpower or be overpowered by another. And most people don’t even realize they’re playing.

The Three Moves in Negotiation

  1. Rock: The Data-Driven Argument (Logic, Facts, and Rationality)

    • "The numbers speak for themselves."

    • "We’ve benchmarked against industry standards."

    • "Here’s the projected ROI over five years."

    • Strength: Overpowers emotional appeals by cutting through sentimentality with cold hard facts.

    • Weakness: Crumbles against moral arguments, as numbers rarely stand up to ethical concerns.

  2. Paper: The Emotional Appeal (Urgency, Personal Connection, and Empathy)

    • "We’ve built a great relationship—why jeopardize it now?"

    • "We’re in a tough spot, and we need your help."

    • "Imagine how much better your team will feel with this change."

    • Strength: Covers moral arguments by making values feel secondary to immediate human concerns.

    • Weakness: Gets torn apart by data when the numbers don’t support the emotional plea.

  3. Scissors: The Moral High-Ground (Fairness, Ethics, and Reputation)

    • "This isn’t just about money—it’s about what’s right."

    • "We need to uphold our principles."

    • "Long-term trust is more important than short-term gain."

    • Strength: Cuts through logic by making numbers seem irrelevant in the face of bigger ideals.

    • Weakness: Gets smothered by emotional appeals when personal relationships outweigh moral arguments.

How the Game Plays Out

  • Data (Rock) beats Emotion (Paper)
    "I understand your concerns, but the numbers don’t lie."

  • Emotion (Paper) beats Morality (Scissors)
    "I get that you want to be fair, but people need help right now."

  • Morality (Scissors) beats Data (Rock)
    "This isn’t about profits—it’s about doing the right thing."

And just like in rock, paper, scissors, no single approach wins all the time. If you walk into a negotiation assuming your strategy is dominant, you’re already at a disadvantage.

How to Win: Mastering the Switch

Great negotiators don’t just stick to one approach—they recognize what’s in play and switch strategies before they get countered.

  1. Identify the Frame:

    • Are they leading with numbers? Emotion? Ethics?

    • What’s their dominant play?

  2. Counter or Redirect:

    • Data-heavy arguments? Shift to morality or emotion.

    • Emotional appeals? Push back with facts.

    • Ethical reasoning? Challenge with real-world urgency.

  3. Blend Tactics:

    • The strongest negotiators mix two or more approaches to make their case airtight.

    • Example: "Yes, we need to act fast (emotion), but we also need to ensure long-term sustainability (data)."

If you recognize the game, you stop playing checkers and start playing chess. Instead of debating the other party’s argument, you control the frame—steering the conversation into the territory where you hold the advantage.

Most people don’t even realize they’re playing this game. Now that you do—how will you play your next move?

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